Does anyone else have that family member(s) to whom you’ll never be good enough?
My grandparents, for as much as I love them, can sure make me wish sometimes that I didn’t know them. To my grandparents:
- I’m fat.
- I’m lazy.
- I’m dumb.
- I’m wasteful.
- My politics are wrong.
- My children are rude.
- My children aren’t as smart, or developing as quickly, as anyone else’s children they know.
- I dress horribly.
- I shouldn’t be staying at home with the girls, I should send them to daycare and work outside the home myself.
This is by no means an exhaustive list. I get comments about these and other things constantly from them, and it’s so frustrating.
I don’t get how one can indulge the urge to be mean just for the sake of it. I can always find a reason to brush their comments aside, but as time passes, it’s getting harder; they’re becoming more critical. I’m frustrated because I know that they’re old, and no amount fighting or conversation is going to change their behavior.
I’m forced to either accept it and love them and try to be the best granddaughter I can be, or to not accept it, which would essentially mean cutting ties with them.
I hate being stuck in this position. Why can’t they realize how hurtful their disapproval is to me and my family?